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Corinne Gregory’s latest book in the “Education Reform & Other Myths” series hit #1 on Amazon Kindle today, a week after it’s release.

Today only, Amazon is offering a copy of the book for free to anyone.  Amazon Prime members can continue to get a copy of the book for free and there is also an option to “borrow” it once a month just like in a library.

“Breaking the Bullying Culture” takes a detailed and in-depth view of many of the issues involved with bullying in our schools and communities. It profiles some high-level incidents of bullying and bullycide, as well as some less-publicized cases. The book also examines the popular “solutions” offered in response to bullying and cyber bullying, identifies why these solutions aren’t working as well as we expect, and offers more effective alternatives.

To get your copy of “Breaking the Bullying Culture” click on the link below:

The first book in the series, “The Stumbling Blocks in the System and How to Fix Them” is also available on Amazon at

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Bullying – we can’t just wish it away

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bullying, cyber bullying, stop bullyingI’m sitting in a plane at 34,000 feet and even here I can’t get away from the topic of bullying. In this week’s People Magazine, there’s an article profiling four families who lost their children to bullycide in 2010.  What the article doesn’t mention is that we KNOW of 34 documented suicides in 2010 caused by bullying. And those only list the ones we know about or can prove a connection to bullying.

For me, the irony is that I’m reading this article as I’m flying to Iowa where I’m presenting both a 3-hour pre-conference workshop on “The Many Faces of Bullying: Traditional and Online — Causes, Effects and What to Do about It” at the Iowa Library Association’s Annual Conference. As is typical of media focus on bullying, the article is high on tragedy and “awareness” but does nothing to suggest a solution. Of course, the implication is that when you read these stories you’ll be left thinking,” Well, this is horrible!  We have to DO something.”  Yes, we do.  But, how long after you watch Anderson Cooper’s latest show on bullying, or once you close the magazine cover will this passion stick with you? Enough to actually take action?

Probably not.  Life is notoriously fickle when it comes to change.  Bullying is not a new problem.  And, in the past several years, it has received an increasing amount of attention, partly because the extent of the tragedies and the impacts not only on students and families, but entire communities, is become more visible. Read More→

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Tonight, CBS News “48 Hours” program is going to air a special on bullying called “Words Can Kill.” I’ve seen this coming for a long time and am eager to see how it turns out.  Last Spring, I was in repeated, lengthy conversations with Kathleen O’Connell and Deb Grau about the plans for the show and shared a lot of information with them. I was also actively working with them to help them find a school that was willing to go “on the record” about bullying and talk about steps they were taking to solve bullying in their schools.

As it turns out, the schools I had introduced them to didn’t follow through after several rounds of talks, so they (and we) weren’t included, but I’m hopeful that the background info I provided was helpful to the program’s efforts.

I’ve seen the sneak peak (and you can view it here), and it looks interesting.  Cynthia Logan who is an online “friend” of mine because of the tragic loss of her daughter, Jessie, to bullycide is extensively interviewed. From what I’ve seen, however, I’m worried that this piece is going to be only more of the same of what we’ve already seen: awareness of the problem and exposure to how horrible it is.

Where are the solutions? One Middle School in Rhode Island is profiled, taking an active stand against bullying. But, what about other approaches? Stopping bullying requires a comprehensive approach, one that deals in both prevention and remediation. As I shared in a webinar completed yesterday, it takes both a strategy and an implementation plan. In fact, we’ve outlined seven steps that are really required to not only stop bullying now, but also to keep it from recurring.  I’ll be intersted to see what this school is doing; most “plans” stop after Step 3, and then they wonder why nothing significantly changes.

What the biggest hope I have of this piece is that it causes schools to reevaluate how important it is to take greater steps in solving this problem.  If the predominant attitude is: “well, we can’t afford to do more,” or “we already have a program/policy in place,” then the 48 Hours project isn’t going to much to change that attitude.  It will likely spur greater reaction among parents, who will find the horror of what occurred in several of these bullying and cyber bullying cases appalling.  But, they may not have much influence on the schools who feel that budget and time pressures prevent them from implementing other options.

Ultimately, I don’t think we need more awareness. Read More→

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I had the amazing fortune to receive this from Christopher Burgess recently.  I am very lucky to have this piece from him to share with you.  This is compelling and I encourage you to read and share with anyone who is concerned with the lives of our children.


Do you ever delve into a stack of statistics and just find yourself mesmerized by the data, data that shocks your inner core?  I had that happen to me recently as I was doing some fact checking surrounding instances of children committing suicide, specifically children who were bullied into suicide by others (both adults and children).  I concluded, we lose too many precious children to “bullyicide.”

According to the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (NSPL) a person dies of suicide about every 15 minutes or approximately 96 people take their own life each day.  Sadly, for every person who succeeds, there have been between 8 and 25 failed attempts.  That math works out to approximately 800 to 2400 attempted suicides in the United States each day.

Looking solely at the numbers for youth between the ages of 5 and 19 we see that right around age 10, suicide moves up to the third leading cause of death (See table 1).  Sadly, according to the NSPL, the suicide rate amongst young people has more than doubled over the past two decades.

   Rank       Ages 5-9     Ages 10-14       Ages 15-19
1 Unintentional Injury
Unintentional Injury
Unintentional Injury
2 Malignant Neoplasms
Malignant Neoplasms
3 Congenital Anomalies
4 Homicide
Malignant Neoplasms
5 Heart Disease
Congenital Anomalies
Heart Disease

Table 1: Leading Cause of Death of Children

Digging a bit deeper into the available information, I wanted to know where, geographically, suicides were occurring.  I was startled.  No state is exempt.  According to the National Center for Health Statistics, based on 2007 data (the most recent), the top ten states are:   Alaska, Montana, New Mexico, Wyoming, Nevada, Colorado, West Virginia, Arizona, Oregon and Kentucky based on the number of suicides per 100,000 of population.   (See table two)

I then started digging to see if the statistics would tell me how many of these were the result of bullying? My digging found that in 2010, I was able to confirm 30 cases of suicide which the family, friends, or authorities attributed to bullying.  The age of the children ranged from 9-19 years of age (9-1, 10-0, 11-2, 12-2, 13-3, 14-4, 15-6, 16-2, 17-5, 18-2 and 19-3).   I also found that the vast majority of these suicides were at the first and last thirds of the traditional school year (16 suicides Sep-Nov and 10 suicides Mar-May).  Perhaps this is coincidence how the frequency of bullycide coincides with the academic school year.  (For additional reading see: Bullycide, the end result of cyberbullying and Bullycide: My Time Has Come So Now I’m Gone )

I think you would agree that given the alignment between school year and children being bullied into suicide that an individual investment in educating and making all concerned aware of the realities is warranted.  Read More→

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