Archive for help with bullying
Since the launch of this site, traffic to it has been increasing at a very high rate. Because of the interest in the topic of cyberbullying and bullying in general, we thought it might be helpful to provide a forum in which visitors can discuss their issues.
So, today we’re happy to announce the Discussion forum is up and live! You can discuss your own experiences, share problems, suggest solutions, even request help if you need it. You will be asked to register when you participate, but this is because we want to be sure that people posting are “real” and not individuals looking to take advantage of those participating. Comments are moderated for content and tone. There’s no place for bullying in our cyberbullying solutions website!
It’s our hope that you’ll find this a useful resource in your efforts to stop bullying and cyber bullying in our schools and communities.
To access the forum, click here or select Discuss! from the main menu.
Today, a picture shared by one of my friends inspired this post. While it’s a very cute picture in and of itself, I think it says alot about what our response should be to bullying we observe or hear about.
Certainly we “get” that the stronger dog in this picture is standing guard over the smaller “kid” (as in goat, in this case). But let me tell you what deeper meaning I take from this as well. Notice how “different” these two are. They are completely different species, one is “dark” and the other “light.” (Yes, I think we can take race and culture in this meaning as well…) Yes, one is “stronger” — the dog is clearly the more mature and powerful of the two and it’s natural to think of us protecting the young or disadvantaged.
But a lesson I hope we take from this is that while we may be “different” from someone else, we are more alike than unalike. We all have the same basic needs, wants and dreams. We want peace, we want to be loved, we want to matter. We want security, we want to belong.
And, we want someone to stand up for US if we were being harassed, teased, or bullied, right? If we felt in danger or frightened, we’d want someone to help US, even if “they” weren’t from our neighborhood, class or culture.
The importance of intervening in bullying cannot be minimized. According to research on the effectiveness of peer intervention on bullying in schools, when peers intervene, bullying stops within 10 seconds, 57% of the time. Ten seconds. That’s virtually instantaneous. What this says is that we have the power to stop a bullying incident almost immediately, if only we were to step in to help.
It’s statistics and case studies like these that I’ll be sharing with attendees in ten days at the Iowa Library Association’s Annual Conference. Read More→